Who Goes First to Make the Difference?
There comes a moment when silence starts to speak louder than words. Something in you knows it cannot stay this way forever.
And change has to start now.
Who goes first? That quiet question sits between so many couples.
Each waiting for the other to soften, to reach out, to begin.
But change never starts in the waiting.
It begins when one person dares to look closer, to see that love asks for movement, not perfection.
Maybe that person is you.
Maybe you are the one who can listen a little longer, breathe before reacting,
or stay curious when the old pattern pulls tight.
To be love is not to lose yourself. It is to hold wisdom through observation, to stay daring enough to explore what wants to change, and to offer compassion to both of you as the path unfolds.
If you start here, something subtle begins to shift.
Not in your partner’s behaviour, but in the atmosphere between you.
A new tone. A softer energy. A space that allows connection to return.
This is the work of mentoring.
To help you see what is really happening underneath the surface, and to guide you back to the kind of presence that makes love feel alive again.
Your first step does not have to be big.
It only needs to be yours.
If you would like to explore what this could look like for you, you can begin with a short Playful Insight Session, a gentle conversation to help you understand what might be ready to move in your relationship.
Let’s begin the conversation.
